When someone has questions or concerns about sex, it’s often hard to know who to turn to for help. Some problems require a doctor or licensed therapist. However, there are many common issues people face that don’t cleanly fall into medical or psychological diagnoses. Some of these include:


Some of my closest friends are “autosexual”. Their best partner is — drumroll, please — themselves. They get themselves off better than any partner they’ve ever had.

This isn’t to say they don’t enjoy partnered sex. They’ve all been in relationships and relayed stories of some very sexy sexytimes. …


Have you attended a play party before? These sex-positive events are a fun way to meet new people and even engage in new sexual adventures with like-minded people.

With themes ranging from masquerade to game night, and some parties dedicated to BDSM, swinging, or specific kinks, every play party is…


Breakups are hard — there’s no doubt about it. Some people cope by “banging it out” with dating app matches and/or people they’ve wanted to sleep with (but couldn’t while partnered). However, this method doesn’t necessarily work for everyone.

For some, it even makes things worse.

For many of us…


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I knew I had to dump my therapist the day she forgot to light her scented candle before our session. The smell of weed hung in the air between our polite smiles.

This wouldn’t be a dealbreaker, normally. But it was unfortunately just one more sign on a growing list…


“You can breathe. You can blink. You can cry. Hell, you’re all gonna be doing that.”

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Negan’s pre-baseball-bat-beating line from The Walking Dead hit different for me during a rewatch this week. Something about the on-screen situation was just too real.

As protests against racial injustice continue, I read and…


A VI community group changed its name for Pride, and lost 400 members.

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Homophobia in the Caribbean is nothing new, and the U.S. Virgin Islands certainly has its share. When the U.S. Supreme Court was still considering whether to legalize same-sex marriage in all states and territories in 2014, Virgin…


Yes; but you may not be ready for a romantic relationship

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Whether you know it or not, whether you feel it or not, you are absolutely worthy of love.

But that doesn’t mean you’re entitled to romance.

Our obsession with romantic relationships is a little scary. We can have rich…


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I was depressed for a pretty significant portion of the last decade. Occasionally, I’d manage to swim my way up out of the depths for a bit, float on the surface, and enjoy the sun on my skin. Inevitably, though, the dark waters would reclaim me. Usually when I…


Why do doctors bring up weight in otherwise healthy patients?

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A friend recently went to the doctor and, for the umpteenth time, was told:

“Everything indicates you’re in perfect health; except you’re overweight.”

When she shared this, my own countless experiences hearing the same line came rushing back. …

Shannon Burton

Content writer and sex coach curious about culture, social justice, and human sexuality. Find out more at contentbyburton.com and sexcoachshannon.com

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